As a PIA growing up, my parents tended to let me sort through my own problems, and it helped me to mature as an individual, especially knowing that I could make mistakes on my own, without them interfering. Bless you for being there for your daughter through all of this.Now this is just my perspective as a recent teenager, but I joined the community to upvote this post. The maturity level between 13 and 17 is so vast and I'm very glad the other girl agreed to back off rather than messing with your daughter's emotions; she sounds like she'll be a good friend down the road, once the dust has a chance to settle.
) She told me that her and the 17yo were "seeing each other" and that the 17yo has an "open" relationship with a boy as well, which means they can see other people.
Well, I met with the 17yo, (who insisted they were friends) explained they were not allowed to see each other anymore, and thank goodness the 17yo obliged.
Were they mostly about you and your prejudices, or were they truly mostly focused on your daughter's well-being?
You do sound like a deeply caring parent, but it may be the case that you and your husband would benefit from at least a degree of professional help to come to terms with the possibility that your daughter will turn out to be gay, as well as getting some guidance regarding the best way to deal with some of the issues connected with that possibility.
A little background- my daughter has never had a boyfriend/girlfriend or relationship and is in 8th grade.
She has always been young for her age and had a tough time identifying with other girls and kids at her school (we had issues of bullying- mostly to her being shy) in which we switched her schools in 3rd grade.She was always the sweet, shy one, and so paranoid of her acne, which she has had from a young age.Well, she has blossomed now into a gorgeous, tall bombshell (I hate to say it) but since she joined Performing Arts, and gotten lead roles, it has really boosted her self esteem.I don't think she realized the level of the relationship my daughter was thinking.We also told her we were pulling her out of the class she is teaching for Performing Arts that our daughter just started.My husband and I explained the situation to my daughter and she is devastated and angry. She is embarrassed for having more feelings for someone than they had for her (and someone much older), having her other friends find out about this crush, and furious at us-- especially since she confided in us her feelings.