The first issue you’ll need to discuss is what I call .
Decide what is off limits and what is not off limits.
You’ll want to talk about safe words or safe actions that can be used to stop play (by either partner), as well as any safe sex practices you want to incorporate.
Some women will want to be physically abused (e.g., being slapped, beaten, choked out, etc.), whereas others will simply want to be tied up and fucked.
This gives you and your partner a chance to get your true feelings out.
Disclaimer: Though males and females can have these kinds of fantasies, the proclivity for women to have a masochistic streak in them (along with current societal constructs regarding rapes in general) means that the overwhelming majority of those who experience such fantasies are women.
eing in a healthy longterm relationship is wonderful, but it’s easy to get stuck in a routine in the bedroom sometimes.
Don’t worry — there are all sorts of options for you to explore!This typically includes a desire to be surprised or caught off guard, physically “captured” and restrained, roughly and aggressively physically attacked to one degree or another, and forced into allowing sexual penetration of the mouth, vagina, and/or anus. Rape fantasies are rather common, believe it or not. So now that we’ve established that these are perfectly normative fantasies, you have to decide how to go about carrying one out safely and sanely.I’ve seen several sources use different figures, but the general consensus is that significantly more than half of all women have rape fantasies from time to time, and that’s just those willing to admit to it. But since I am not a psychologist (and didn’t stay at a Holiday Inn Express last night), rather than me rehashing what others have said, I’ll just point you to a few articles written by those with experience in such matters. It’s important you lay out and play by a set of ground rules, for two reasons.I’ll explain below how to bring this up with a partner, but assuming you have and wish to move to putting it into action, you need to work out some details.You therefore need to have a good line of emotional and communicative connectivity to your partner.Very few people have the desire to be put through the physical and emotional trauma of a real rape.