I know if i try to talk to him about it I'll get upset and pissed off and won't be able to talk about it calmly and factually. I know how you are feeling because a betrayal of trust can come in many forms.It just s ucks that you are now conflicted on how to approach him.If he's really determined to save the marriage he will go to therapy. I know how you are feeling because a betrayal of trust can come in many forms.
Then get the guy in counseling and devulge the info at that point. i want an explanation, but at the same time, I want the truth and i don't know if i'll get that right now.
I've been wanting to see a therapist for awhile now, for myself mostly, and then work on my marriage too but just haven't really spent the time and looked for one, plus my husband thinks therapists are a joke and thinks that people need to handle their own problems.
was he really going for drinks or looking for a woman?!? I agree with Ashelen sometimes there are crazy spam out there.
Or hell there is a women in the office who several of his co workers have told me likes to go around and try to get unavailable guys. And then if i do actually confront him and ask him all this, how can i know he's telling the truth? I say that knowing how terribly hard that is to actually do. I agree with Ashelen sometimes there are crazy spam out there. I understand your feelings of doubt and they are completely normal. Do you have access to his phone bill and all that stuff? I checked out the site, i didn't log in or anything, but it says on the home page, where you sign up that your password will be sent to your email address so you can log in for the first time.
i want an explanation, but at the same time, I want the truth and i don't know if i'll get that right now.
But i just don't know how to approach this with him.
Of course this just brings up all kinds of thoughts and questions in my mind like if he has resorted to looking online for women in this area, does that mean he's already tried to find them in person??
He goes out occasionally with friends from work for drinks after work, so what was he doing then?
But i just don't know how to approach this with him. My minds going in all kinds of directions right now.