One practice is to have five minutes of talk before the first date; ten minutes before the second, and after that, just greet the boy and let the couple leave. Girls, especially from out-of-town, may be living at a college dormitory, sharing an apartment in the tri-state area, or boarding with a family.In such cases, the boy and girl may arrange to meet near the girl’s residence or somewhere in the “city”.A shadchan comments, "I know someone who was so impressed when his future father in law asked him this!
Will she be willing to dress this way for the rest of her life?
The girl should find out in advance the boy's plans for the dating venue, in order to make sure she is dressed appropriately.
Dates often take place in hotel lounges, preferably not more than 30 minutes drive.
However, singles sometimes find it more natural to talk while doing an activity, such as playing board games, rather than being placed next to each other and expected to converse.
A general principle is to try to have opportunities to see the other person in a variety of situations and observe how they handle them.
Many boys have found the Mikomos website useful for finding appropriate dating venues.For example, the girl may try to solicit more detail about experiences or ideas that the boy shares.Girls are also likely to learn more about the boy they are dating if they turn the conversation to topics that are important to them.If she doesn't have a plan in mind, he can present her with his suggestions.Girls prefer to know in advance the type of activity they'll do on the date so that they can dress appropriately, e.g.If the drive to the girl's house is long, it could be useful to allocate time along the way to stop at a rest station, a convenience store or a shul so as not to need the bathroom upon arrival.