e will do this repeatedly and honestly I have started to take it as he is not really truly interested in hanging together. If the two people like each other this is way to get the ball rolling which makes everyone happier... Nonetheless, I feel being as open, friendly and honest as you can be would be much more appropriate than the majority of the approaches advocated by Jeremy, most of which just come across as insincere.
I think I would like the soft versions of the apporach.
Like ana, I think I would interpret them as not very suave and I find the not-so-suave approach very appealing.
A less direct approach takes some of the risk and uncertainty out of the requesting. Fortunately, there are strategies and social skills to covertly ask for what you want.
In fact, there are a number of compliance gaining strategies (ways to get others to do what you want) - some that don't require directly asking at all (Kellermann & Cole, 1994).
Welcome back to The Attraction Doctor Although asking for a date directly can have a good chance of success (see articles Part I here, and Part II here), it can also be awkward and difficult.
Therefore, some people prefer to take a more "indirect" approach to asking out a love interest (especially those who are shy or have some social anxiety).So, remember to use them with a smile, in a flirty, light-hearted way (like you're trying to be cute, not trying to con them).Even so, you may still "turn off" some possible romantic partners who prefer a more direct and "authentic" approach.Others, however, find the same strategies clever, flirty, and attractive.Ultimately, it is your call (and your tradeoff) between the direct and indirect approach. Attraction for more dating and relationship advice (in helpful categories)! This strikes me as akin to the investment brokers who call and say they want to discuss their ideas, "So, is the morning or the afternoon better for you? These strategies are somewhat akin to those found in sales. If you have not already done so, you might also want to check out my "Just Asking" articles.I have a hard time with this approach when it is used on me, especially repeatedly. So if you are too nervous the techniques are a fun reminder to get back to natural friendly ways as if you were friends. My friends and I don't communicate in this way, we are very straight forward with one another.