He says that he smokes when he's stressed, but Im worried that if we decide to get married and have kids, he'll start to smoke more due to the stress of having kids, a job, paying bills....
I dont want him to be high 24/7 because of stress, when he can come to me and we can work through whatever is bothering him together.
Sure, he lets me know that he wants sex, but when Im ready. I need some balanced input here so I can make an intelligent, informed decision not purely based off of emotions and what not. I am happy..just the weed thing that really gets to me and the last thing I wanna do is be without him..treats me soooo good and I dont know if there are other guys that will treat me as good as he does... The final straw was one night late I went over there. He ignored me and then after almost an hour they were going to start smoking. When we first started dating, a let him know that I didnt like weed, and I asked that he didnt do it around me or come around me high...
I know how it feels to not wanna think about your problems. Thing is, I knew before we went out, and I foolishly thought that I could handle it, even though I did not like weed. But now just the thought of him being high, with his mind way up there in the clouds, and his perceptions and reactions being altered, makes me sad--it breaks my heart. Some days we cant hang out for days at a time, but he understands. But if this really bothers you, you should let him know. I cry uncontrollably till I feel like I cant breath, my heart feels like it hurts, all the energy just drains from my body... Tell him its because you care about his well being.
Dont laugh, but even thinking of him smoking makes me cry man! People say weed is a harmless drug, but why do any drug at all? He never makes me feel bad about it, never gets mad at me for it, and just tells me to rest. But beforehand think carefully about what exactly bothers you so you can be clear to him. As for the children, just tell him you don't know what you want. I never wanted them and my husband is fine with it. And his well being affects your well being as a couple.
He doesn't smoke everyday, but I worry that it could turn into an everyday thing because of stress. He had a bit of stress and a hard time latelyn but believe me , I tried everything just to cheer him up.
But then again, I do have anxiety, and I tend to skip to worse case scenarios..more input, guys? I dated someone who did all those good things but he smoked weed. They know you don't like them smoking so they do other good things to make up for the bad. If he loves you he will not do things you don't like. And he really does sound like most of the facts about your boyfriend (which means I don't wonna lose him either).
Its just the whole high thing with marijuanna that I hate. Im in tears right now, I dont know what to do...please help, if you can.
I mean, I dont wanna have a high bf, or have a high husband who climbs into be with me at night with his mind in the clouds..makes me sad to think about it. If I didnt know him, I would of never though he was high. You can have fun and be sober(look at little kids)! If I break up with him, I'll lose the first boy I've ever loved, and I'd lose a person with so many wonderful qualities...
First , it'll be smoking Than it will turn to alcohol after that Weed and one day he'll be an addict.
How can I let someone I love get this bad about his life?
I want him to turn to me when he's stressed, not weed... Good luck Hey, I know it's a year ago since you've posted this but I'll try my luck anyway.