He might be eating out as an excuse to go out and take care of his addictions. If he is eating all three of his meals and spending ( a meal) a day on food that makes it 0 a month on food. Right now he is doing what you have allowed for two years. He either cares enough to explain his actions and try to fix things or he won't. Since I've been with my boyfriend, I've always had a problem with jealousy. Anyway, I try my hardest to control it and have been doing good until recently. dollars x 30 days equals 0 a month on eating out. Even 0/month on food, more on clothing and a lot of electronic gadgets and toys would be a lot of money, and at any rate he does seem to be focused only on himself... He sounds really cheap to me and being cheap and living with your parents at his age would make me wonder. He is going to a bachelor party this Saturday and will be going to a strip club. I have lost my boyfriend three days ago and all I could do is to cry. He was found lying on the corridor of his house by his mum. The next day at his parents', he hands me an unwrapped, open TIVO box.
I love buying myself things, as a girl ofcourse, I love cosmetics, clothes, shoes, purses and so on. my family gifted me some money and I spent it all on buying gifts for all of them MY boyfriend included...* When he needs money I lend it, when we are at his house I take some take out so we can eat ect..know...normal things...
But just to clarify I don't expect my boyfriend to buy me this because I buy it for myself. however he would rather watch a movie from cable because PPV is too expensive..would eat the cold pizzza that was left from like 3 days ago...
The first time we went out to breakfast with my dad, he did not even offer to pay for part of the bil L. He is a good person, but his cheapness/greediness is starting to get on my last nerve. I know someone who told her husband of several of her expectations that he had to do for their marriage to work.
When we've gone out with my friends, he acts like he doesn't see the bill and doesn't offer to pay any part of it... He works for a good company, with a good salary, lives rent free in his parents' home, has no children therefore no child support, no car payment. He has much more spending money than I, so I can't understand his behaviour. Only thing is, you may get just one opportunity for this tactic.
He used to be really good about calling when he said he would and answering his phone when he knew I was going to call him. My boyfriend and I have been dating for over a year now, and the issue of money in our relationship has not really improved.
Ever since the first date, we have split everything 50/50 (we met for a few drinks on our first date, and yes, I bought him as many as he bought me). My last birthday (which is new years day) he didn't even so much as give me a card. I am sure he heard the disappointment in my voice and "surprised" me later by arriving at my door with a flower pot he had just purchased from Walmart. I have picked up the check or paid for the movie tix too. We went to a winter carnival recently, I paid for food and rides. You can nag him and show him your disappointment, that will get results. You mentioned that you are not a gold digger, That made me wonder if he is for some reason allowing you to be seen by others as not a gold digger... I also hope that he had some other plan (such as a ring? That might be just wishful thinking though, but I hope you both can work things out for your happiness. Does he not know he should be picking up the tab for taking you to the movies, or out to eat??I have noticed times when he ignored the bill at a restaurant. He didn't even offer my kids a candy apple or popcorn. I think it is way way past time you two sat and had a little chat.You might also want to explore, for yourself first, what the act of giving and receiving gifts means to you. Or there may be some bigger issue that is hiding behind the money issue.You won't know until you get it all out in the open. Good point about wondering what he does use his money for, but she did say he eats out often.I was really disappointed and embarrassed because his entire family knew he had it lying around. Compatibility is, in some part, an acceptance that another is just different than you.