I “met” Deesha Phillywaw through her book Co-parenting 101: Helping Your Kids Thrive in Two Households After Divorce.
I wish I read her work before I became a co-parent.
When you think you’re ready, the children are probably ready a year from that.
Dating man 4 kids
So yesterday, Deesha and I sat down to lunch–we ate our favorite Thai food and discussed our not so favorite topic–co-parenting through problems and over obstacles.
I asked her what six things should women know when dating men with children. If a man says, my child’s mother won’t let me see my kids, dig deeper, because while the family court system is broken, sometimes men say they aren’t allowed see their children when they haven’t sought parenting time through a judge.
You don’t need an attorney to obtain custodial rights.
A father can represent himself pro se and file a motion if he cannot work out an agreement with his ex.
Ladies listen, this man did not get used to a kid screaming like you did, he was not kept up nights tending to the crying and projectile poop, he isn’t seasoned in this.
Above all else, including your want for a mate is your child’s safety.Even if he thinks negative those things, it’s not nessceary that he has to vocalize everything all the time, especially if his children are in earshot.It’s difficult to do in many cases, but he should be civil.If a man doesn’t try to visit his son/daughter, that’s not the child’s mother’s fault.It’s easy for someone to place blame on another person, especially if they are not getting along.I’m friends with my ex-husband, but not everyone has a good relationship.