When I was visiting California this summer, a cashier from Brandy Melville asked me out on a date while I was buying a t-shirt.
My first reaction was to laugh at him because it seemed so absurd that someone (let alone a cashier my age with whom I had only spoken three words) was asking me on a date.
Perhaps this has to do with their upbringing, where it’s very normal for boys and girls to play and intermingle together.
The dating cultures are just You might wonder how people get to know each other then.
Well, we usually go out in groups and meet within this social group. If you are already friends with the guy, you just spend more time together, get a coffee after school or share a meal at your apartment, and flirt a little bit.
It’s all about social codes, and I hope you enjoyed learning about the ones of where I’m from!
I never thought that the cultural background of a dating prospect would make much of a difference when it came to relationships.
The privacy of teenagers’ relationship is noticeable when you walk in Paris streets: You will rarely witness two young people show a lot of affection for each other. The French language doesn’t make a difference between “like” and “love” (the verb for both is ), which makes it very easy to avoid the whole “I love you” drama that exists in America.
We keep that for private spaces, or once again, parties. “Je t’aime”/”I love you” is usually pronounced after a month of dating and is not a big deal, even though it makes us happy when said.The consequence of this is a lack of understanding of women, a lack of comfort and often, a lack of respect. There is a courtesy, consideration, chivalry and thoughtfulness in how they act, behave and engage with others.They are also raised with strong family and community values, so there is a sense of responsibility and accountability for others, not just for the self. European men have a different perception of beauty.However, since living in New York, I’ve had the opportunity to meet many different people from various backgrounds and it’s become clear that there are definite cultural norms specific to European men versus American men (especially New Yorkers).I’m not to judge that one is better than the other, and mind you, my observations are based on my own experiences as well as a group of women I’ve interviewed in the last two years.The below is a list of some of the themes and commonalities observed.