You need to conscientiously force yourself to forge a new resolve and disengage from unhealthy relational dynamics before it gets worse.
It almost always gets worse, and most certainly gets worse without any intervention.
First, you need to be able to recognize the signs that the person you are dating has BPD.
You will be blindsided by and baffled by your partner’s willingness to destroy the relationship you nurtured and enjoyed, as well as the indifference and callousness with which your relationship is dismantled.
Although you may even wish to piece together the smoldering embers of the relationship that is now seemingly broken beyond repair, the healthiest thing to do would be to let it be.
Part of the confusion may be your belief that your partner with BPD was experiencing the relationship the same way you were—this is likely not the case at all.
Feelings of depression and heart-palpitating anxiety won’t lessen the harshness of this uneasy situation you find yourself catapulted into.
Your partner is a master-manipulator who is chameleon-like and you just didn’t stand a chance at real happiness of the lasting variety.
Unbeknownst to you, your partner’s underlying traits of BPD caused him or her shame, fear, disappointment, resentment, and anger.
The person you thought you would spend the rest of your life with is now suddenly an unavailable stranger to you.
When your partner suffers from a major mental disorder such as BPD you would find it helpful to realize you both were never really on the same page at all.
Here are 12 things you should know before dating someone with BPD 1.
There may be a day where we wake up feeling over the moon, but before the day’s out we may just want to hide under the covers and cry.
Know that it’s not you, and there’s nothing you can do but be there. We may have fears of abandonment, and worry that you may leave at any given time. We’re not doubting you, we’re more doubting ourselves. Please don’t question an unpredictable mood, simply ask how we’re feeling and if there’s anything you do.