I am definitively an Explorer, and secondarily a Negotiator.I believe that today, people are getting married for the right reasons: to make themselves happier.
Very briefly: But no one expresses just one set of these traits; we all express all of them, but each of us expresses some more than others.
My questionnaire has now been taken by over 13 million people in 40 countries, and I and my colleagues have now done two brain scanning experiments (f MRI) to prove that those who score high on specific questionnaire scales actually are activating the appropriate brain regions or systems.
At its worst it leads to depression, suicide and even murder.
In fact, our brain scanning studies (using f MRI) show that when a person is in love, they exhibit activity in the same brain regions that become active when one is addicted to cocaine and other drugs, including the nucleus accumbens and the ventral tegmental area (VTA), two primitive parts of the brain involved in the production and distribution of dopamine.
As it turned out, I found four constellations of personality traits linked with four broad biological systems: the dopamine, serotonin, testosterone and estrogen systems.
So I made a questionnaire to measure the degree to which an individual expressed the traits with each of these systems.These infatuated lovers also show activity in the caudate nucleus, an ancient brain region that helps to integrate our thought and feelings. This neurotransmitter is the central component of the brain's reward system—the brain system that gives the lover focus, energy, motivation, and craving for the beloved. In the case of romantic love, you can't wait to see the person again.I can't think of any bigger reward than falling in love. You get upset if they don't call you, known as separation anxiety.And they are taking their time to look for the right person. Moreover, today we are seeing the economic rise of women; and everywhere in the world where women work outside the home and bring home money, both sexes are less dependent on one another so that bad marriages can end. With less infant mortality and a host of medical innovations, more people will also have a long healthy middle age — with more time to find and keep love.Yes, we found specific patterns of brain activity among those who were in love long-term.These men and women had been married an average of 21years — yet they showed some of the same basic activity in the reward system that we had found in those who were newly in love — with one exception.