If I don't respond, meaning I let it fizzle, it's because I wasn't given anything to respond to. Which is what seems to have happened with a guy who has checked out my profile a few times who I was thinking about sending a message to before he beat me to it.
As a guy, it happened a lot to me on Ok Cupid in the past.
I mentioned something in a female's profile, and never got a response back the majority of the time.
When I send a message first, I mention something in their profile we have in common and I usually don't get a response. Yes, I suck that badly Anyway, for an update another one agreed to meet.
Men have a reputation for being rather passive when it comes to dating in this area, however. However, not sure if it'll happen since she was only free Friday and Sunday and I'm busy both days.
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Some forums can only be seen by registered members. Yes, I suck that badly Anyway, for an update another one agreed to meet.
If the conversation fizzles, doesn't it make it your fault.
One of the things I kinda put more on the girls shoulders is making small talk, to put the guy at ease.
So I figured I'd keep my expectations extremely low and ask each one if they wanted to meet up. Most of the messages I get land in my "filtered" inbox and come with the warning to avoid internet scams. The last one I had an actual conversation with said he wanted to meet and then stopped responding when I suggested a day to meet.
Most of my "conversations" go like this: Guy: Hi..are you today? He then checked out my profile one last time before he disabled his account.
Though cheesy and slightly cliché, this method of flirting can be effective in breaking the ice and getting a conversation started.